Letting Go and Holding On

I’m pleased to introduce stargardener, a friend who encourages me with her thoughtfulness. I trust you will enjoy her post as much as I do. I need to hear this perspective often…

It has been said that life events occur in threes. Apparently that is the case for me regarding the crafting of family memory books. I am in the midst of organizing my photos as well as sending selected photos to my daughter as she compiles her scrapbooks and helping my mother sort through over 60 years of photographic memories as she and I create a visual and written history of our family.

photo credit: steepways

My own photo collection beckons me from a linen cabinet. Its size and scope seem a bit overwhelming at times — but alas, mere words cannot begin to describe the precious memories! Amid these boxes of years-in-pictures are trinkets and calendars, journals and fading handwritten notes of affection and discoveries from my three beloved children. The confines of that cabinet comfort me with evidence of the mother I wanted to be, but doubted too many times. It is visible reassurance that God was faithful to provide His Grace!

But for some reason, each time I take a run at sorting and (attempting organizing) this quasi-shrine of family memories, not much is accomplished. Oh, I pull out sections of photos and sort for a while, making notes regarding order and arrangement. Then, my mind wanders, lingering over the memories of family times, learning quests and so many special moments — and the presumed goal of the task loses its priority.

Another goal begins to surface, a much more important goal — beyond tangible organization. The desire to gather these memories in my heart for safe – keeping, enjoyment and encouragement for my children and grandchildren — and their children!

It just may be that the lingering part is the goal! Especially since the days of motherhood are brimming with activity, chores and pure adventure. Thus, once the full-time aspect of that role begins to diminish, a mother can revisit and savor days gone by. Just in time to make new and special memories as she celebrates her grandchildren! ;-)

Motherhood is a unique calling. Unique because even as we embrace our children — the memories and the opportunities to nurture them — we are also letting them go just a little bit at a time. Releasing them to the LORD according to the plans He has for them. (And sorting, lingering and organizing the memories within our hearts!)

stargardener currently enjoys semi-retirement from full-time motherhood and 18+ eclectic years of learning-at-home with her three children (and anxiously awaits the birth of her first grandbaby in July!). She delights in the country life with her husband as they feather their empty nest and make sure their three dogs (and one very independent cat!) get plenty of attention.

She blogs her “recipes” for sweet inspiration, treats of creative planning and pieces of dark-chocolate humor as she savors her Dessert Years!